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ParamoreGate . . .

saturday was the day ! paramore yang sangat gue gilai itu kehilangan 2 orang personilnya . they are Farro brother . josh and zac decided to leave the band . jangan tanya deh perasaan gue . . .
anyway , berita mundurnya dua bersaudara ganteng ini pertama kali muncul di Tumblr sang vocalis : Hayley Williams .Ini nih tulisannya hays :
di sana di jelasin kalo yag keluar cuma sang gitaris Josh farro . tapi selanjutnya , beredar isu yang mengatakan kalo tulisan ini adalah Fake alias palsu . sayangnya sabtu lalu ,18 desember 2010,  Paramore.net , situs resmi paramore mengkonfirmasi berita tersebut dan secara mengejutkan mengeluarkan pernyataan bahwa yang keluar gacuma Josh tapi adeknya Zac Farro juga . . . :'(  isinya adalaaaah :

"ANNOUNCEMENT

Posted by Paramore
December 18, 2010
Over the past 6 years, our band has been through some of the most intense and incredible experiences of our lives. None of these things have been without trial. We've worked so hard to get to where we are and the fact that you are all still here with us says something about you that we will never be able to truly understand. You have stuck with us through thick and thin and we are so grateful. A couple of months ago, Josh and Zac let us know they would be leaving the band after our show in Orlando last Sunday. None of us were really shocked. For the last year it hasn't seemed as if they wanted to be around anymore. We want Josh and Zac to do something that makes them happy and if that isn't here with us, then we support them finding happiness elsewhere. But we never for a second thought about leaving any of this behind. We really hope that you can be encouraged by the fact that the three of us who are still here are ready to take on another chapter of our journey together. You have always been what keeps us going so why would we stop now? We want to stick by you. Knowing that we have a unified passion and a clear vision makes us feel stronger than ever.
The "blog" that was posted regarding everything that is going on with our band was a fake. We aren't sure who did it or why... And we aren't sure how they timed it this way. This is the first time that we have spoken out about what's going on and we wouldn't have released an official statement that important through a personal blog. So, we're sorry for any confusion and just to remain clear, this is the first time we have spoken out about this.
We have some amazing things lined up for next year starting with our tour in South America. We are still coming to you and we are excited about who we are bringing with us! The tour is still on and we can't wait to see you all.
As we look back, and now as we look with excitement to the future, in all of this what truly matters are the good times. The pictures of us with our arms around each other, the long van rides, your faces while you sing along as we play. Thank you for getting us right here to this very moment. We look forward to our best times. And we hope you will go there with us.
Love,
Hayley, Jeremy & Taylor
Paramore"

maka terjadilah , Secara resmi Paramore kehilangan Gitaris dan drummernya sekaligus .  bahkan cuma beberapa menit setelah paramore.net nge-post pengumuman tersebut , wikipedia udah masukin Josh ama Zac kedalam List 'Past member' gabung sama Jason Bynum , john Hembree dan hunter lamb .
 cuma sehari berselang , sebuah Band dengan Nama Tunnel muncul dan digosipin sebagai band barunya Zac . lagu mereka 'Hide Your eyes' beredar di Cyber dan lumayan sukses ngobatin kehilangan gue atas zac.
terus , Josh akhirnya ngeluarin Statement di blog pribadinya buat ngejelasin alasan kepergiannya .yang ngejutin nih , semuanya seolah adalah salah Hayley , yang notabene juga mantan pacarnya Josh . 

"Tuesday, December 21, 2010


Josh and Zac's Exit Statement


Hey guys,


Let me start by apologizing to you for the way everything went down on Saturday.  I had a statement typed ready to post to you guys but Hayley released one without my permission.  We were not going to issue a statement until we worked out our exit agreement with Hayley.  I wish it didn’t have to happen that way, Zac and I wanted to be the ones you heard it from.  I want to be honest with you guys about how this band formulated from day one. I did not think Hayley’s version told the whole story, at least from our perspective and hopefully this will explain a bit about why we are leaving.

                Zac and I had a garage band in high school with the intentions of just making music for the love of it. We met Taylor and our friend Jason Clark at our school and found out that we shared the same musical tastes.  So, we asked them to join our band. It was some of the greatest times of our lives playing music in Taylor’s basement with them.  We obviously needed a lead singer and one day Zac met Hayley.  We asked her to come try out and eventually to join the band.

                Months down the road things changed and this band became all about Hayley.  She had a manager at the time that controlled her every move along with her parents.  They didn’t like the idea of Hayley being in a rock band so they forced her to leave wanting her to pursue a solo career.

                Hayley went off to write and record her solo demos while the four of us continued on without her.  A couple of months later Hayley came and asked us if she could use the song “Conspiracy” that we had all previously written together.  We agreed that that would be fine.  I got a call a while after that from Hayley telling me that her manager said that Zac and I were invited to be back in the band (the band we started), but not Taylor and Jason because they weren’t good enough in his eyes. Hayley brought in Jeremy and our first rhythm guitarist Jason Bynum as the other two members. 

                 We travelled to LA a few weeks later for a showcase and it was a nightmare.  Hayley’s manager would tell the band to be in the lobby of the hotel at a certain time, but he and Hayley wouldn’t show for hours.  We found out that they had been meeting with record label executives all morning without us, which is totally weird given that this wasn’t simply a solo artist, but we were a band. The band was in the dark the whole time.  After many meetings between Hayley, her manager and the labels they decided to sign her to Atlantic records. We didn’t understand why Hayley was the only one signing the contract since we were told this was a “band”, but we were too young to grasp all of this.  So far, Zac and I haven’t signed with another label, although I guess our part of Paramore sure could. Next thing we knew we were having a signing party for Hayley.

Our next move was to rerecord her solo demos with our own music rather than studio musicians to make it sound more genuine. Meanwhile, we tossed around band names. I wrote out a list of names, including “Paramore”, a name my old band with Taylor and Jason Clark had thought about using. Obviously, we settled on that name. The label received the rerecorded demos and once again tried to fire the entire band, saying we were terrible. Thankfully Hayley and I had been writing some new songs together (Hallelujah, Here We Go Again) that the label was pleased with so that acted as leverage for the band to stay. The label and management then decided to build our band up the grass-roots route. They put Hayley on Fueled by Ramen not making it known she was signed to Atlantic as well. All the while we still questioned whether or not we were an actual band, but Hayley continued to insist we were, despite our being ignored and pushed around by the label.

They then sent us all to Orlando to rehearse and write eight hours a day for our first record. Half -way though this process, Jeremy decided to quit.  We were all really upset about it. So we finished the record, replaced Jeremy, and hit the road with Hayley’s father as our tour manager/driver of a twelve-passenger van. Her dad would constantly threaten to “pull the plug” on the whole band if we complained about anything, suggesting that we were hired guns and Hayley was the real artist, when in reality we were also part of the band. We’ve always been treated as less important than Hayley. It’s been obvious how her family views things.

Jeremy ended up rejoining and we toured non-stop for two and half years building our fan base, pretending to be a band that started naturally. In reality, what started as natural somehow morphed into a manufactured product of a major label, riding on the coattails of “Hayley’s dream.”

Before recording our next record, we kicked out Jeremy for his lack of work ethic and participation in things that Zac, Hayley and I didn’t agree with.  At this point it was just the three of us to record Riot. Once the record was done, we needed a bassist and another guitarist. Eventually Zac and I convinced Hayley to let Taylor rejoin and she convinced us to let Jeremy back in, promising he had changed his ways. 
Once again we hit the road and toured on our biggest record as a band. As you all know Hayley and I dated and broke up during this album cycle. Things then started going downhill for our band. Hayley and Jeremy’s views started changing from what we all once believed in. The band almost split after cancelling a tour in Europe, but we managed to keep it together somehow. This is when Zac and I started to consider quitting the band.

Once we finished touring on Riot, we came home for a break and started writing for Brand New Eyes. Hayley presented lyrics to us that were really negative and we didn’t agree with. For example, “the truth never set me free”, which contradicts what the Bible says in John 8:32 (“and you shall know the truth, and the truth shall sat you free”). We fought her about how her lyrics misrepresented our band and what we stood for, but in the end she got her way. Instead of fighting her any longer, we decided to just roll over and let it go.

Hayley claimed that this record reunited us as band and made us grow closer together, when in reality we were all growing further apart. Suddenly the band had spilt into two sides. Touring became more difficult since we couldn’t agree on anything. The friendships our band once had were no longer existent. Amos 3:3 says, “Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction”.  In addition to the band turmoil, touring had really taken its toll on us both. We left home at such a young age and missed taking part in normal teenage years.  When you own part of a band and are constantly playing, you make sacrifices.  Touring has taken its toll on our family members as well. I specifically remember many moments where our parents would break down in tears when we had to leave. It broke my heart. Seeing our siblings grow up so much during our absences was never easy either.

After a lot a prayer and counsel Zac and I came to the decision that it was time to leave the band. We truly feel that God is leading us elsewhere and is going to do great things with us. The intention of this statement was not to belittle or disgrace the rest of the band, it was simply to clarify our decision for leaving and our desire to finally tell you guys the truth.  We are still hoping to work out a friendly way to leave our part of Paramore intact with the remaining band members, including Hayley. 

We want to thank you guys for all of your love and support over the past 7 years. It’s been an honor creating and playing music for you. If music is what God calls us to in the future, we hope that you all will be a part of it.
All of the glory be to God,

Josh and Zac"
No matter what happen , gue tetep cinta mati ama paramore . Gue suka paramore ; personilnya secara personal , musik mereka . gue bakal tetep nungguin karya mereka baik sebagai paramore maupun solois atau mungkin sebgai bagian dari band lain.

sending a letter to juliet !

akhir akhir ini , gue lagi demen demennya berburu film romance . sebenernya dulu ga gitu gitu suka yang beginian karena ceritanya yang cenderung 'lebay' . tapi terlepas dari title lebay yang sekarang udah gue cabut sepenuhnya dari film jenis ini , menurut gue film drama romantis adalah film yg jujur karena mampu berbicara pada hati . (heleh , ini malah gue yg sekarang jadi lebay ). oke , back to the topic . we will NOT talk about love , anyway . dari banyak film yg udah gue tonton dalam 3 hari ini , di tengah ujian yang membludak , gue dapet 1 quotes yang ngena banget dari cerita 'letters to juliet' . FYI ! guys , Letters to juliet di bintangi oleh mbak amanda seyfried yang cantik , dan sountracknya di isi ama taylor swift juga . ceritanya ada satu tempat di verona , italia yang di sebut rumah juliet . konon sang legenda juliet capulet akan membalas surat surat yang di tinggalkan di tempat ini . namun tentu aja semuanya itu cuma mitos , karna surat surat dari wanita di seluruh belahan dunia yang datang kerumah ini dengan tujuan untuk "bertanya pada juliet" di bales sama beberapa orang perempuan setengah baya yang menamakan diri mereka sekretaris juliet . sophie (amanda) yang lagi liburan ke verona , ikutan ngebales satu surat yang keselip di balik batu dan bertanggalkan 50 tahun lalu . dari seorang wanita bernama claire . isi suratnya gini nih : 
"I didn't go to him, Juliet. I didn't go to Lorenzo. His eyes were so full of trust I promised I'd meet him and run away together because my parents don't approve. But, instead, I left him waiting for me below our tree - waiting and wondering where I was. I'm in Veronoa now. I return to London in the morning and I am so afraid. Please, Juliet tell me what I should do. My heart is breaking and I have no one else to turn to. Love, Claire"
trus di bales ama si sophie : 
"Dear Claire, 'What' and 'If' are two words as non-threatening as words can be. But put them together side-by-side and they have the power to haunt you for the rest of your life: What if? What if? What if? I don't know how your story ended but if what you felt then was true love, then it's never too late. If it was true then, why wouldn't it be true now? You need only the courage to follow your heart. I don't know what a love like Juliet's feels like - love to leave loved ones for, love to cross oceans for but I'd like to believe if I ever were to feel it, that I will have the courage to seize it. And, Claire, if you didn't, I hope one day that you will. All my love, Juliet"

jadi , gue tertarik sama dua buah kata dari quote dia atas . they are  'what' and 'if'. seperti kata juliet a.k.a sophie . . . kalo kata what (disini di artikan sebagai bagaimana ) dan if (bila) di letakkan berdekatan sehingga menjadi "what if " atau tentu aja "bagaimana bila" , maka kedua kata ini akan bertransformasi menjadi sebuah kalimat yang . . . menyakitkan dan bisa menghantui seumur umur , karena berkonotasikan penyesalan . di sini ,claire harus dan tetep nunggu 50 tahun untuk bisa hidup bareng ama cinta sejatinya lorenzo . "bagaimana bila" claire merelakan ujiannya di london lalu menemui lorenzo 50 tahun lalu , tentunya dia ga perlu nunggu selama itu . ! well , kembali ke kita guys , penyesalan , kalo datengnya di depan , maka bukan nyesel namanya , tapi sadar . satu hal yang gue bener bener pelajari dari film ini , dihukum oleh si "bagaimana-bila-dulu " itu rasanya ga enak banget . jadi , lakukan apapun yang kamu mau , asalkan hal itu adalah hal yang kamu dan semua orang senangi agar ga perlu ada penyesalan di belakang dan di masa depan kamu gaperlu bilang "bagaimana  bila dulu " :) 

Cina Dan kebudayaannya

ini adalah postingan dari tugas mandarin saya . setelah di edit sana sini btw , disadur dari : http://vidyanitakumalasari.wordpress.com/2008/09/04/10-hal-yang-pantang-dilakukan-di-cina/
Ada 10 hal yang pantang dilakukan dicina
1. jangan pernah menerima pujian sepenuh hati
biasanya jika kita memuji orang cina, misalnya pada kasus betapa enaknya makanan yang dimasaknya, biasanya orang tersebut malah akan bilang “ah…tidak, masakan ini tidak enak sama sekali”. intinya orang cina semakin dipuji malah akan semakin merendah (beda banget sama saya, kalo dipuji malah bilang “alhamdulillah, ya iya lah :D “) . tradisi mereka mengajarkan untuk selalu bersikap sederhana & sopan tanpa memperlihatkan kelebihan mereka
2. jangan pernah mempermalukan orang lain (yang ini mah ga usah di cina juga emang harus … ;-) )
jangan pernah membuka aib seseorang di depan orang lain (apalagi di depan orang banyak),sebaliknya pujilah mereka disetiap kesempatan. maka mereka akan menghargai anda (kalo dipuji malah merendah..gimana sih.. :?: )
3. jangan pernah bertengkar di depan umum (sama kaya’ no 2…ya iyalah…..)
4. jangan pernah memanggil orang dengan nama pertamanya
nama orang cina biasanya terdiri dari 2 suku kata, nama pertama dan nama keluarga. biasanya nama keluarga diletakkan paling depan. jika seseorang memperkenalkan dirinya sebagai Mr. Li Ming, maka sebaiknya kita memanggilnya Mr. Li, karena ini adalah nama keluarganya.
5. jangan pernah mengambil makanan dengan ujung sumpit yang salah (gimana si…masa’ ga bisa bedain…. :P , mending pake sendok+ garpu aja kalo ragu2, ato skalian pake tangan)
6. jangan pernah minum alkohol tanpa menawarkannya terlebih dahulu (yang ini mah kayakna ga mungkin salah d….wong soda aja ga minum…palagi alkohol :roll: )
7. jangan pernah membiarkan sesorang membayarkan tagihan kamu tanpa kamu tolak terlebih dahulu (ini yang susah…lah , rejeki ko’ ditolak…)
biasanya orang cina berebutan untuk saling membayar tagihan pada saat mereka selesai makan.
8. jangan pernah membawa “tangan kosong” jika berkunjung ke rumah orang lain
kebiasaan orang cina adalah sering memberikan hadiah untuk orang lain, tanpa memerdulikan saat2 spesial. jadi biasakan anda untuk membawa “hadiah kecil” kemanapun anda pergi, karena anda tidak tau siapa yang akan anda temui (haduh…susah banget si…mo ngomongnya..)
9. jangan pernah langsung menerima makanan, minuman & hadiah, tanpa terlebih dulu menolaknya (alias malu2 kuching….)
karena orang cina akan menganggap orang tersebut tamak alias rakus, jika langsung menerima tawaran dari orang lain, betapa inginnya barang tersebut
10. jangan pernah menganggap serius jika ada orang cina berkata “tidak, terimakasih” untuk pertama kali
karena kata2 tersebut adalah kata2 yang pasti mereka ucapkan jika ditawarkan sesuatu betapapun mereka menginginkannya. jadi biasakan untuk menawarkan hal (makanan, minuman, dll) kepada mereka lebih dari 2 kali meskipun mereka tetap berkata “tidak, terimakasih”

Kebiasaan Minum Teh Orang Tionghoa
dari : http://indonesian.cri.cn/chinaabc/chapter18/chapter180301.htm
Sejarah minum teh di Tiongkok dapat dilacak 4.000 tahun lebih. Orang Tiongkok mempunyai kebiasaan menyuguhkan teh kepada tamunya.
Kebiasaan minum teh di Tiongkok telah bersejarah lama. Konon kabarnya, sebelum tahun 208 Masehi, kaum cendekia mulai menyuguhkan teh kepada tamunya. Sampai zaman Dinasti Tang ( 618-907 Masehi), kebiasaan minum teh sangat populer di kalangan masyarakat. Kebiasaan itu berkaitan dengan agama Buddha. Sekitar tahun 713 sampai 741 Masehi, biksu dan penganut agama Buddha minun teh ketika duduk bersamadi, agar bersemangat dan tidak ngantuk. Tahun 780 Masehi, pakar teh Dinasti Tang, Lu Yu menyimpulkan pengalaman mengenai menanam, membuat, menyeduh dan minum teh, dan menulis satu buku mengenai teh.
Sekarang setiap hari raya, seperti Tahun Baru atau Festival Musim Semi, sejumlah lembaga negara sering mengadakan jamuan teh.
Di Tiongkok, teh telah membentuk satu gejala budaya yang unik. Masyarakat telah menjadikan menyeduh teh dan mencicipi teh sebagai semacam seni.
Kebiasaan minum teh di berbagai tempat berbeda, karena setiap daerah mempunyai kebiasaan minum teh yang tidak sama, maka jenis teh yang diminumnya juga lain. Misalnya, orang Beijing gemar minum teh wangi atau teh melati, orang Shanghai suka teh hijau dan warga di Provinsi Fujian, Tiongkok tenggara lebih suka minum teh hitam.
Tata cara minum teh di berbagai tempat Tiongkok juga berbeda. Misalnya, di Beijing, ketika tuan rumah menyuguhkan secangkir teh, tamunya harus berdiri dan menerimanya dengan dua tangan, sementara menyatakan terima kasih. Di provinsi-provinsi Guangdong dan Guangxi, Tiongkok selatan, begitu tuan rumah menyuguhkan teh, tamunya segera mengetuk meja tiga kali dengan jari kanan untuk menyatakan terima kasih. Kebiasaan mengetuk meja, konon kabarnya ketika kaisar atau pembesar zaman dahulu ketika melakukan perjalanan dengan menyamar atau secara inkognito, ketika bersama-sama minum teh, bawahannya menggantikan bersujud kepada kaisar dengan mengetuk meja untuk menyatakan terima kasih.

selain itu , ternyata orang cina juga memiliki beberapa kebiasaan buruk . 
anyway , postingan ini tidak dimaksudkan untuk menyinggung ataupun menghina suku manapun .
Kebiasaan buruk orang cina 
diambil dari : http://archive.kaskus.us/thread/4516590
1. ngeludah sembarangan
2.. nyerobot antrean / cutting lines
3. impoliteness .